Couples Counseling Services Rotterdam NY
My work with couples uses unconventional but also common sense approaches that can help people who would normally be resistant to couple’s therapy feel more comfortable. My focus is on helping the couple identify what is going right with their relationship. My homework for couples is typically something like this: between now and the next session, notice 2 things that your partner did that you really appreciated; notice one thing that occurred that you wish had gone differently. When couples learn to shift their focus to what is going right with their relationship, the homework evolves into doing more of what your partner has appreciated. Additionally, I almost always teach couples communication strategies that are non-threatening and that help them to work better together. Finally, I like to explore with couples how what they may have learned growing up in their original families is impacting their current relationship. We often repeat negative learned behaviors with our significant other, and we often choose significant others who remind us of one or both of our parents.